To some, being married at 22 is an absolute horror. They couldn’t imagine having their “freedom” taken away at such a young age. They haven’t had enough life experiences or met enough people. No, I admit, it’s not for everyone. Many still have a lot of growing up to do and simply have not met the right person to spend the rest of their lives with. Obviously marriage is a big deal, and it should be treated as such. God designed it for a specific purpose. He made Adam a companion so he did not have to spend his days alone, and that they both, together, could glorify the Him.
I don’t believe I’m missing out on anything in life. I don’t go out to bars with friends on weekends and hook up with random strangers here and there. To me, having meaningless drunken nights that I’ll never remember does not even sound like a good time. I am perfectly content if that is what I am “missing out” on. We still hang out with friends, even though our circles are much smaller now, and that’s okay. We go out to eat, and have movie nights, and cook supper together. I always have someone to talk to and vent to and is there for me no matter what.
I am lucky to have met Jake at such a young age. He has been my best friend for over eight years and I know everything about him. We’ve grown up together and continue to do so. I have known for years that I have wanted to marry him. Ever since I made a Pinterest I’ve had a wedding board, but what girl doesn’t? Honestly, it’s something we think about from a very young age… finding our prince charming and living happily ever after. I’ll be honest; I didn’t always think we would get married so soon. I was pretty adamant about not getting engaged until we had both graduated college. I thought that was more acceptable, and “looked better.” That’s one of the reasons I was so surprised when he actually did propose. When I truly thought about it, I realized I’m not living my life for anyone else. I do not need others approval. The only opinion that matters is Jesus’.
With all that being said, please don’t think for one second that marriage is perfect or even easy. Our life DEFINITELY isn’t all sunshine and roses. We have our problems and arguments and fights, but with any great relationship, it’s worth fighting for. There is no leaving or walking away. You stay and work things out. It will be messy and hard, but at the end of the day, you love your spouse. You chose to be with them forever, and you have the comfort that they chose you too. Marriage truly is a beautiful thing, and I thank God every day for my husband.
On a side note: I often get questions about our wedding, so I have decided to do a series all about our venue and vendors. This is probably a little selfish of me too, since I love reliving this day over and over. Although the actual day went by way too fast, our photographer and videographer perfectly captured our entire day.